Lasiter & Jackson Law Firm – Divorce Attorney Advises You To Do NOT Do These 10 Things When Going Through A Divorce.

1. Use Your Kids To Hurt The Other Parent – First and foremost, your divorce is about you and your soon-to-be-ex. Your children did not create the problems in your marriage and they did not cause your divorce. They are innocent people who will be deeply impacted by the divorce and your job is to protect them, not to use them to hurt someone else. Whatever you do – keep the kids out of it.
2. Be Spiteful – You may feel angry or like the only way you will feel better is if your spouse feels worse. But being spiteful isn’t going to help anyone. Your money, time, and stress are affected through the divorce process and the more you want to play hardball just “because”, the more it’s going to cost you in all three. It’s not worth it.
3. Lie To Get Ahead – This should be a no-brainer, but people often need reminding. Lying is against the law when you are going through a divorce battle. Remain civilized and fair. A divorce is not intended to destroy another person’s life. It is meant to separate a married one. Keep that in mind.
4. Post On Social Media – Leave social media alone when you are going through a divorce. You might post something that could hurt your case. Divorcing couples often, without intending to, hurt family members by airing their frustrations and grievances online. Keep it tight-lipped and stay away from the internet.
5. Expect To Get Everything – The best outcome in a divorce is the outcome where everything is settled and fair. That means alimony, child support, child custody, and asset distribution. So, don’t expect to get everything you want. The court will make the decision that is the fairest and makes the most sense.
6. Put Your Children On The Sidelines – This is a difficult time for everyone – but your children still need you. In fact, they need you more right now. Don’t ignore them or think that your divorce has no impact on them. Be as supportive of them as you can financially and emotionally so that they can establish the security that you are always there.
7. Try To Make Your Ex Jealous – You might think it’s a great idea to start dating and show off your new partner to make your ex jealous but that is a risky move. Take heed and be mindful that your actions are not only affecting your ex – there are other people involved and the last thing you want to do is give your ex ammunition to use against you in court.
8. Don’t Fight Just To Fight – If you can settle outside of court, do it! There is no reason to waste time and money that you don’t have to. In fact, all the fighting may not even end in the results that you want so it truly isn’t worth it. Try to work with your ex and compromise on the things you are able to agree on.
9. React Out Of Anger – Anger leads to impulsive reactions that you’ll likely regret later on. It’s really important to keep your emotions in check so that you can think clearly. Overreacting happens when people are stressed out and angry. If you can avoid reacting until you have cooled down, do it.
10. Let The Divorce Destroy Your Life – Your divorce is a moment in your life. A big one, yes. But, it’s not the end of your life. Divorce can lead to a myriad of problems for people. If you feel overwhelmingly stressed or down, seek help from a mental health professional who can help you cope with the changes in your life in a healthy way.

Don’t go through a rough divorce without the help that you need. Lasiter & Jackson has experienced divorce attornies and is here to help you navigate the rough waters in a healthy way that will impact your life in the most positive way possible. We know that this is a stressful and extremely difficult time but we want to help you make the choices that will ultimately work to your benefit and make your life better and you stronger. Contact us Today!