It’s normal to feel discombobulated by divorce. Here are 16 small, everyday things that can help:.
1. Let yourself off the hook. Breakfast for dinner, leftovers for lunch and an extra hour in bed while the Disney channel babysat my kids. There is too much pressure on women to be everything to everyone all of the time. When you are dealing with divorce, you must let yourself off the hook a little.”
2. Reach out to your family. Reconnect to your family – it will make all the difference in the world.
3. Allow yourself a 20 minute pity party. A little trick of scheduling your sorrow can help you vent, but keep the sadness from overtaking your entire day.
4. Cut out negative people, pronto. You go through a roller coaster of emotions during a divorce — you don’t need anyone’s dark cloud adding to your baggage.
5. Learn the meaning of ‘pick you battles’ when it comes to your ex. If an issue arises concerning my child, engage. If it’s an issue carried over from the marriage, why give it head space?
6. Do all of the things your ex held you back from doing. Get a cat, vacation in Mexico, stay up way past midnight watching bad TV, eat copious amounts of chunky peanut butter– in bed — with a giant serving spoon — right out of the jar.
7. Join a divorce support group. You can say anything, no matter how horrible, and not be judged.
8. Take a trip alone. Even if it’s just a day trip, it’s proof that you can get around just fine on your own.
9. Do not pretend you are OK. Self-explanatory.
10. Delete all your ex’s shows from TiVo. Self-explanatory.
11. Yoga and/or meditation. Take a yoga and meditation class. It teaches you simply how to breathe and find peace at a time when everything feels like it is crashing down around you.
12. Make like-minded friends. Make friends with other people who were divorced or in the process of divorce. You don’t have to leave your old friends behind post-split but there are just some things that your married friends won’t understand.
Source: Brittany Wong, The Huffington Post.