If you and your spouse have decided to split, your separation may be high-conflict, amicable or something in between. As a result, it may be challenging to choose just which boundaries to draw between your spouse and yourself while your divorce is pending. We have previously written about certain boundaries that should generally be employed concerning divorce and social media. For instance, it is not a wise choice to bad-mouth your spouse on social media nor is it advisable to vent about the divorce process generally in these forums.
However, if you and your spouse have been behaving amicably so far, would it benefit you to ‘unfriend’ your spouse on Facebook and other social media sites pending the finalization of your divorce? What if your divorce has not been so friendly and you desperately want to unfriend your spouse? The answers to these questions depend on your unique circumstances.
If you are willing to temporarily shut down your social media access, this move may be preferable to unfriending your spouse. By now, the social media world tends to accept that people temporarily suspend their accounts for a variety of reasons. However, if you unfriend your spouse, chances are that any family members, friends and colleagues who are not already aware of your divorce will pepper you with loads of unwanted questions.
If you are not willing to suspend your social media use until your divorce is finalized, consider the consequences of keeping your spouse as a friend and of denying that spouse access to your social media activity. In either event, remember that every action you take on social media is widely visible and can have unforeseen consequences for your divorce.
Source: Huffington Post, “‘Til Unfriend Do We Part,” Michelle Crosby, Aug. 13, 2013