When you are navigating a divorce or grappling with a child custody, child support or domestic violence issue, it is normal to struggle with feelings of worry. However, it is advisable to deal with your urge to worry in a constructive way. Failure to do so can lead you to act in ways that may negatively impact the outcome of your divorce, custody or other family law matter. While worry is an understandable reaction to family-related stress, it will likely do you very little good to indulge it.
Famed author Lucy Maud Montgomery once said that “It only seems as if you’re doing something when you worry.” Worry takes a great deal of energy and focus. Unfortunately, it is only one’s active response to worry that is constructive. Worry alone is almost never an answer to concern or problems in and of itself.
Rather than spending your valuable time, energy and well-being worrying, address the core concerns fueling your worry. If you are anxious about matters directly related to custody, divorce or other family law proceedings, speak with your attorney and ask questions until your worry is alleviated. If you are concerned about how you or your kids are reacting to the stress in your life, seek out helpful books and advice from trusted sources.
When you fail to address worry head-on, it can grow and morph into a kind of emotional monster that sucks control away from you. You have the power to address your worries. When you do everything that you can do to be prepared and seek answers, all there is left to do is live life and see what comes. Worry is normal and understandable. But you do not have to give your energy and strength over to it.
Source: Huffington Post, “Stress Quotes: 7 Quotes To Help You Stop Stressing The Small Stuff Post-Split,” Apr. 10, 2013